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When we were kids, my friend’s father went to the states leaving behind a hopeful wife and five children. For them, this would be a great opportunity for a better, more prosperous life. My friend was the youngest.

After some time, my friend’s mother received a parcel from the U.S. They were divorce papers that her husband wanted her to sign. My friend’s family was shattered and their hearts were torn to shreds. My friend grew up without knowing the love of a father.

When we were kids, even before I entered grade school, my father worked in Guam, USA. After every few years, he would come home. And when it was time for him to go back, my mother and I would see him off at Clark Air Base in Angeles City. My mother would be crying the whole trip home.

Several times a year, we would receive a big box. My father sent us clothes, toys, housewares, personal care products, plenty of Hershey’s chocolates, and a whole lot more. He knew exactly what we liked. On our birthdays, he never forgot to send us cards with his loving dedications. My mother compiled them neatly in big photo albums including our pictures and our father’s. Every month or so, a photographer (the only one in town then) would come to our house to take our pictures. My siblings and I would stand side-by-side according to age forming a stair-like formation. My mother regularly sent our photos to our father.

Then the time came that my father’s contract would expire and if he couldn’t secure another work visa, he could no longer work there. There were people who advised him to “temporarily” divorce our mother, marry an American citizen to get himself a green card, then divorce the “temporary” wife and return to his family. They said that in that way, he could get us to Guam, too.

My father didn’t want to do it, so he came home to us and never left. And I grew up having a loving father, through poverty and through prosperity.

There are a myriad reasons why marriages implode and families shatter to pieces, but one of those that stand out is the accessibility to many available options. Some laws have been made not to prevent a crime or wrongdoing but to legalize the doing of it. Such laws as same-sex marriages and abortion are just a few examples. Divorce is easily accessible in most countries for any and every reason making marriage almost without binding power. I saw a movie before where a man introduced his beaming wife who was standing close beside him with her hand hooked around his elbow. And he said, “I’d like you to meet my future ex-wife.”

This has become a reality. How can a spouse have a feeling of security when the options have become stronger than the bond, when laws have empowered more the dissolution of marriage than its fortification? But this wasn’t so in the beginning.

…They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female’, and said, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.

 “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”

 Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” (Mat. 19:3-8 NIV)

In this day and age, there are a plethora of options that are available to man and which could easily make him double-minded. A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways (James 1:8). In the sea of options where we could easily drown and get lost, it is best to focus our eyes on the Lord Jesus, on His Word and perfect will for us.

The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light. (Mat. 6:22)

This post is linked to Domestically Divine, Women Living Well, Women in the Word Wednesday, Raising Homemakers, Proverbs 31 Thursday, Brag on God Friday, Spiritual Sundays, Sharing His Beauty

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