Marriages’ only hope is Jesus Christ. I’ve found that out first-hand.
Two years before we received the Lord’s offer of salvation and surrendered our whole lives to Him, my husband and I were living separate lives. A few months after we had our first baby, we separated. Ours was not the absence of love, but the presence of gigantic, painful differences that eventually took over our married life, and love was buried under the rubble of our crumbled dreams. Our marriage was helpless in the absence of a savior.
For me, the words that describe best the Lord’s great mercy are these:
“Father, forgive them; FOR THEY KNOW NOT WHAT THEY DO.” (Luke 23:34, emphasis added)
It’s so liberating to know that the Lord Jesus Christ sums up all our mistakes, wrong decisions, wickedness, and SINS, into one simple reason: WE KNOW NOT WHAT WE DO. Ignorant. Knowing nothing. No, not the truth. Foolish.
We knew not what we did, for we were blind, deaf, lame, crippled. We were totally blind to the truth. We were deaf, not knowing and hearing God’s voice. Lame, crippled, not knowing how to walk uprightly.
But when the great mercies of the Lord reached us, our hearts and minds were opened, we embraced the truth, and our souls were restored. Our lives were redeemed. For from the gates of hell, the Lord Jesus Christ mightily snatched us away, and set us firmly on the Rock. The King of kings and the Lord of lords – He is mighty to save!
Our family was restored. Our marital problems that seemed impossible to be resolved, the Lord blew them all away. For God’s salvation ENCOMPASSES ALL. It brings complete forgiveness and teaches us to forgive others, too.
Those two years that my husband and I were estranged and our days were spent in pursuing our own separate sinful pleasures, and the rest of our old lives, were ALL buried in baptism. We came out as new creations, all the old things have passed away – gone for good, and He made ALL THINGS NEW for us (2 Cor. 5:17).
True, in the day-to-day, there are conflicts and struggles, but we have learned to BRING THEM ALL to the feet of Jesus. We pray for them. Prayer: it’s the MOST EFFECTIVE and best remedy for any and every problem. Prayers and the Word, these are the ones that REALLY HELP. Yes, not with all the marriage counseling books and self-help books combined.
We water, God gives the increase (1 Cor. 3:7). So, we water our lives with constant prayers (sometimes with fasting), with songs of praise and worship sung unto Him, and with His Word dwelling richly in us. And the Lord gives the increase – increase of our love, patience, kindness, wisdom, peace, joy, harmony. And the increase of spiritual power and strength to walk humbly before God and live a life of holiness.
Surrender your life and marriage to the Lord Jesus Christ. He alone has the power to turn them around.
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