Whoso offereth praise glorifieth me: and to him that ordereth his conversation aright will I shew the salvation of God. (Psalm 50:23)
As true children of God, we are called to be shining lights to the world. This is best manifested by the way we communicate. But it is not only in the world at large that we strive to be God’s reflection of His light, but the practice must start at home, where we become models of exemplary communication to our spouse and to our children. What peace and harmony would this bring to our family!
Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven. (Mat. 5:16)
Personally, I desire to echo the prophet’s words and see it happening in my life:
The Lord God hath given me the tongue of the learned, that I should know how to speak a word in season to him that is weary: he wakeneth morning by morning, he wakeneth mine ear to hear as the learned. (Isaiah 50:4)
But I have found out that my desire to have a kind of communication that’s based on a “higher ground” is, sadly, harder to come true with my own people at home. After all, communication is always two-way. It really takes a lot of prayer, patience, and practice.
The following are helpful ways in achieving an excellent and harmonious communication in the home and in the world:
- Pray for wisdom. It all starts with the acquiring of it. “Wisdom is the principal thing” (Prov. 4:7).
If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. (James 1:5)
If we receive wisdom that’s from above, we are guided in all our communications. We always speak the truth, and never lie nor gossip. And if we need to speak the truth that might hurt, “we speak the truth in love” (Eph. 4:15). We speak words that inspire, encourage, lift up, edify – words that bring out the best in the other person. That’s why it is very important that we always feed on God’s Word for us to continue to grow and bear the fruit of the Holy Spirit. It is our source of wisdom and truth.
But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. (James 3:17)
- In all our communications, we must strive to seek and establish peace. Be not contentious. Strifes are unprofitable and can weary us out. Forsake pride and put on humility. Let us listen with all our hearts and speak with all wisdom.
For “He who would love life and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips from speaking deceit. LET HIM SEEK PEACE and PURSUE IT.” (1 Pet. 3:10-11)
Let our words be not abrasive, sarcastic, condescending, hurting, deriding, insulting. LET ALL THESE BE PUT AWAY FROM US FOR GOOD. Let us not be blaming and pointing the finger at one another, and grumbling at every turn, but LET EACH ONE EXAMINE HIS/HER OWN HEART.
There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health. (Prov. 12:18)
Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones. (Prov. 16:24)
So if we want our families to be always “in the pink of health”, let us learn to speak pleasantly and kindly to one another.
Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God. (Mat. 5:9)
- Let us be known for our gentleness (Phil. 4:5). Let us embrace and practise it, whatever situation we are in.
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. (Prov. 15:1)
Let us not be easily angered, impatient, and irritated. But let us clothe ourselves with meek and quiet spirit (1 Pet. 3:4).
And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient.
The Lord Jesus is calling us to walk and communicate on the higher ground. Let us yield ourselves to this call and let the Holy Spirit work freely in us for us to bear much fruit, for this is the will of God for us.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control… (Gal. 5:22)
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